“Don’t apologize for something you did and then do it again. If you tell me you’re sorry, I expect you to do better.”
A true apology means so much more than just saying, “I’m sorry.” So many times people are quick to say they are sorry, just to end a dispute, saying it because they know the other person wants to hear it to let things go.
It’s admitting that you did wrong. It isn’t easy to admit that you did wrong and it takes a mature person to be able to do so. Some people think that admitting that you are wrong is a sign of weakness, but this is far from the truth. A person who can admit when they do wrong and grow from the mistakes that he made is a much stronger person. Don’t apologize for something you did and then do it again. If you tell me you’re sorry, I expect you to do better.
It’s telling the other person that you feel bad that you hurt them. If the person apologizing to you genuinely cares for you, they will feel bad for whatever they did to upset or hurt you. A true friend hurts when you do and will do what they can to make you feel better.
It’s telling the other person that you will do better. When you say you’re sorry, it means that you will try your best to make sure that it does not happen again. “Empty promises” happen when a person apologizes, but keeps doing the same thing again and again.
No body deserves to be hurt physically, emotionally or with words. If you find that someone is constantly telling you they are sorry, but continues to hurt you, this is not a healthy relationship.
When someone tells you that they are sorry for what they have done, watch their actions. Do they admit to you that they have done wrong and can you see that they genuinely feel bad for what they did? Saying they are sorry is one thing, but showing you that they will do better is what really matters.