“HAPPY FATHER’S DAY to the single mom’s out there putting in work for the dad’s that aren’t around.”
Parenthood is not easy and especially can be difficult if you are doing it alone. It can be extremely challenging, stressful and at times you may feel like you want to pull your hair out. Children being raised by single mom’s is the second most common living arrangement, the two parent household being the most common. Fortunately, there are many ways you can make being a single mom a little less difficult.
- Get a support system. Talk to other friends that have children and plan times when you can have her watch your kids. Be there for them when they need you to do the same. Find other single mom’s that you can reach out to for questions. No one can give better advice than another single mom going through a similar situation.
- Rely on close family members. If you have family members that live close by, see if you can drop your kids off at their home while you do your grocery shopping or go out to coffee with a friend. Many times close family members are the one’s that work out to help pick up your children after school and watch them until you are off work. This not only benefits you, but both your children and the caregivers as well. Many times children form a close bond with their caregivers.
- Set up a carpool. Reach out to other parents that have their children at the same school or doing the same after school activity and arrange a car pool schedule where you take turns picking up and dropping off each others children. This will free up some of your time.
- Set up a chore chart. Assign chores to your children to help out with household duties. Start them young. You may have to help them out more when they are young, but you will be setting up good habits for the future. For instance, helping your two year old clean up his or her toys. An older child can learn to set the table, do the dishes, laundry, take the garbage out, mow the lawn, wash the cars, etc. This will lighten your load.
- Plan your meals. Write down a list of meals that you would like to have for the week, shop for the ingredients and prepare your meals ahead of time. Find meals for the week that you can prepare and freeze. That way, when you get home after a long day at work, you can just pop your meal in the oven or Instant Pot!
- Budget your money. Try to keep your finances under control. One month you may need to cut back on your spending because you need to buy soccer uniforms for your kids or pay for medical or dental bills. Just make sure you keep track of how much money is coming in and going out.
- Set aside some alone time. You need a break every once in awhile too in order to “recharge.” You should not feel guilty for asking for this time because it will actually make you a better mom. Ask one of your friends or a family member if they can watch your children so you can go to the spa for a massage or a pedicure or just so you can have some alone time at your house!
I would also like to acknowledge all of the single mom’s out there during Father’s Day. HAPPY FATHER’S DAY to the single mom’s out there putting in work for the dad’s that aren’t around.