You are Loved https://soforeverloved.com Inspirational and motivational quotes to help brighten your day. Mon, 13 Jul 2020 21:29:03 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.4.2 https://secureservercdn.net/198.71.233.51/knk.e3e.myftpupload.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/cropped-Icon-You-are-Loved-32x32.jpg You are Loved https://soforeverloved.com 32 32 Aging Gracefully https://soforeverloved.com/aging-gracefully/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=aging-gracefully https://soforeverloved.com/aging-gracefully/#respond Mon, 13 Jul 2020 21:28:58 +0000 https://soforeverloved.com/?p=1671 Aging GracefullyGetting older doesn't mean that you have to decline in your physical health and live a life filled with despair. There are things that you can do to age gracefully and it should begin when you are young!]]> Aging Gracefully

“I’m not adding this year to my age because I didn’t use it.”

Getting older doesn’t mean that you have to decline in your physical health and live a life filled with despair. There are things that you can do to age gracefully and it should begin when you are young!

As I was visiting with an old friend she told me, “I’m not adding this year to my age because I didn’t use it.” People are so afraid of growing older because they think of old age as a time of poor health, wrinkles, unhappiness and the inability to do the things that they once enjoyed. But the truth is that we can experience even more joy, happiness and successes with age and our experiences! So what is the secret?

Secret to Aging Gracefully

1. Decrease stress in your life. Stress can have so many negative effects on your life. Increased stress can cause health issues including high blood pressure and heart attacks. Recognize what is creating stress in your life and remove yourself from as much of it as you can.

2. Get on a good sleep schedule. Studies show that most people need 7-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep. When you sleep, your body decreases cortisol levels (stress hormones). This is why when you wake up after a good nights sleep you often feel more refreshed. Sleep is also the time when your skin cells regenerate.

3. Eat healthy. Your body needs a nutritionally balanced diet in order to operate at its top level. With proper diet you are less likely to encounter health issues, such as stroke, diabetes and heart attack. It not only will keep you mentally sharp, but also give you more energy so you can enjoy doing the things you enjoy.

4. Learn something new every day. This is something that everyone should do no matter what your age is. Never stop stimulating your mind. There are so many new skills and hobbies that you can learn to keep your mind active.

5. Keep hydrated. Your body needs water to function properly. It helps to flush your body of toxins. With water, you will find that you can think better, sleep better and it even helps you to lose weight. You are less likely to have dry, flaky skin and suffer from the fine lines of aging if you keep yourself hydrated. If you have trouble drinking enough water, try some warm or cold tea, watermelon or cantaloupe to help quench your thirst.

6. Keep active. By keeping active, you will actually slow the aging process (at the cellular level)! By moving you are nourishing your joints and are less likely to develop the common aches and pains of aging. So, keep doing the things that you enjoy doing. Go for a hike, keep working out at the gym, take your dog on daily walks, keep playing that sport you enjoy. Start a new active hobby, like dance or bowling. Just keep active!

7. Protect your skin. This should start from day one. Wear sunscreen and protect your skin with a hat or protective clothing. Sun can damage your skin and cause premature aging. It’s good to get outdoors and get some Vitamin D, but make sure you protect your skin with sunscreen. Make sure that the sunscreen that you use protects you against both UVA and UVB sun rays and has at least a SPF 30-50.

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Trust Issues https://soforeverloved.com/trust-issues/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=trust-issues https://soforeverloved.com/trust-issues/#respond Sun, 05 Jul 2020 23:16:02 +0000 https://soforeverloved.com/?p=1667 Trust IssuesBecause of fear of being hurt, humiliated or manipulated again, it can be difficult to overcome, but it is possible. How to Overcome Trust Issues]]> Trust Issues

“My trust issues are so bad that I don’t even trust the mute button when I’m on the phone.”

If you are able to show someone that you have confidence in them you are showing them that you have trust in them. Without having trust in your relationship, you will be living in fear. People usually develop trust issues due to previous experiences in their life that effected them either emotionally or physically. Because of fear of being hurt, humiliated or manipulated again, it can be difficult to overcome, but it is possible.

How to Overcome Trust Issues

Recognize that you have a trust issue. Until you recognize and accept that you have an issue with trust in your relationship, then you can’t deal with it. Try to identify what is causing you to have difficulty trusting. If you experienced a deep emotional or physical trauma in your past you may benefit from talking with a professional counselor.

Forgive. In order to be able to move on you need to be able to forgive the person who did you wrong in the past. This does not mean that whatever they did was right or okay. But by forgiving this person, it is allowing you to leave the past in the past so you can move on and not bring this excess baggage into your new relationship.

Learn from your past mistakes. Don’t keep making the same mistakes. Try to learn from the bad choices you made and make adjustments to your behavior to avoid it from happening again. If a person keeps letting you down and then promising they will do better, it’s time to move on. The more you allow a person to continuously let you down, the deeper your trust issues can become.

Relinquish Fear. After experiencing betrayal it can be very difficult to be able to trust again! In order to be able to have a healthy relationship, you need to be able to relinquish this fear so you can trust again. By opening yourself up to your partner and being vulnerable, you are also allowing yourself the ability to be able to experience happiness, love and joy again.

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Just Do You https://soforeverloved.com/just-do-you/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=just-do-you https://soforeverloved.com/just-do-you/#respond Sat, 04 Jul 2020 00:25:09 +0000 https://soforeverloved.com/?p=1644 Just Do YouIt can get quite frustrating when you are dating a guy that your girlfriends don't approve of, especially if you are head over heals in love with him. Just do you.]]> Just Do You

“IDK who needs to hear this…but STOP listening to other people and just date the person that you love!”

It can get quite frustrating when you are dating a guy that your girlfriends don’t approve of, especially if you are head over heals in love with him. You want to hang out with your friends and you still want to be with the guy you are in love with. How do you deal with your friends that can’t stand the guy you are dating?

When Your Friends Don’t Approve of Your Partner

Hear them out. Listen to what your friends have to tell you about why they don’t approve of your boyfriend or girlfriend. Maybe they don’t think your partner treats you right, maybe he’s hit on them, maybe they don’t think he is good enough for you. It could just be that they aren’t their type!

Talk to your partner. This can be difficult to do without hurting any feelings, but you owe it to your partner to let him or her know what is going on. They probably already sense something is up. Let your partner know that you would like to work things out so all of you can feel comfortable hanging out together at times.

Let your friends know you want them to respect your choices. They do not have to approve of your choice of partner, but they do need to treat him or her with respect. You need to stand up for your partner, both when he is and isn’t present. This is something that you would want for your partner to do for you as well. IDK who needs to hear this…but STOP listening to other people and just date the person that you love!

Gradually bring them together. Maybe just have one or two of your friends at a time around him. Make sure that they are respectful and stand up for your partner when necessary. Go on a double date.

Just remember that if you are happy and in a healthy relationship it really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks about the person you are with. Just do you!

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Finding the Good in Everything https://soforeverloved.com/finding-the-good-in-everything/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=finding-the-good-in-everything https://soforeverloved.com/finding-the-good-in-everything/#respond Fri, 03 Jul 2020 23:12:51 +0000 https://soforeverloved.com/?p=1625 Finding the Good in EverythingIf only you changed your way of thinking in the first place, you could have saved yourself all of these ill feelings. It starts with finding the good in everything.]]> Finding the Good in Everything

“My heart is big enough that even though you hurt me I will still try to find the good in you.”

Have you ever got so worked up about something that wasn’t going your way only to find out that in the end everything ended up okay? All that anger, anxiety, stress and fear that you were experiencing was for nothing. If only you changed your way of thinking in the first place, you could have saved yourself all of these ill feelings. It starts with finding the good in everything.

How to See the Good In Everything

Start with a positive mindset. By having a positive mindset it allows your body to cope with the stressful event without causing your body to suffer harmful effects. If you think negatively, you are likely to experience anger, anxiety, stress, depression and fear. All of these emotions can negatively affect your health, causing increased blood pressure, increasing your risk of having a heart attack or stroke. Instead, think of what good can come out of a situation. For instance, let’s say you are going in for a job interview for a lead position at a company that you have always had your eyes on. Don’t go into your interview thinking, “There’s no way I’m going to get this job, there are too many people applying for it,” or “I’m going to freeze up and not know what to say during the interview.” Instead tell yourself, “I have a lot I can bring to this company. I have trained for this position for two years and I can’t wait to show them my skills!” Positive thoughts lead to positive results!

Be thankful for what you have in your life. Life is way to short to even take the little things you have in your life for granted. There are so many things to be thankful for, if you have it; your good health, your parents, partner, a job, a roof over your head, the ability to be able to feed your family, your skills, family pet and of course your good friends. All of these make your life so much more meaningful and fulfilling. Focus on all of these things and you will notice that you feel much happier.

Practice positive thinking every day. If you are someone that usually doesn’t have a positive outlook on things, this can take time to change. But just remember that it is possible. For every negative thought that you have, try to replace it with two positive one’s. For instance, instead of saying, “There’s no way I can finish this in time,” say, “I can try my best to make it work,” or “I can see if I can get some help to finish it in time.”

My heart is big enough that even though you hurt me I will still try to find the good in you.

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Distance Gives Clarity https://soforeverloved.com/distance-gives-clarity/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=distance-gives-clarity https://soforeverloved.com/distance-gives-clarity/#respond Fri, 03 Jul 2020 21:06:06 +0000 https://soforeverloved.com/?p=1641 Distance Gives ClarityDistance is important to have in a healthy relationship and can give you clarity on how you feel about your partner. A couple that does everything together is not allowing themselves to continue to grow as an individual.]]> Distance Gives Clarity

“I have learned that distance really can give you clarity on how you feel about certain people in your life.”

Distance is important to have in a healthy relationship and can give you clarity on how you feel about your partner. A couple that does everything together is not allowing themselves to continue to grow as an individual. By being able to experience some alone time from your partner, it allows you to take a step back and see how much you actually love and value having them in your life. It will help you to appreciate your partner more and the time when you are back together will be even more enjoyable.

Sometimes distance allows you to see how much better of a person you are without a someone in your life. This can happen if the person that you are with is holding you back from doing the things in your life that make you happy or if they do not support you with your dreams or goals.

I have learned that distance really can give you clarity on how you feel about certain people in your life.

Having some distance can actually help to save your relationship. By giving yourself some alone time it allows you to learn how to become emotionally dependent on yourself so you do not have to depend on your significant other all the time. It allows you to continue to grow as an individual and makes you emotionally stronger so you can be your best self within your relationship.

When you are having some distance from your partner, take time to think about your life. Ask yourself, “Am I happy?” “Am I doing the things in my life that I want to do?” If you find that you are off track ask yourself, “What is stopping me from achieving my goals and making me happy?” Make any adjustments that you need to in order to get yourself back on track.

If it is your partner that is holding you back it is important that you bring this up to him or her. If they genuinely love and care for you they will make any necessary changes on their part to make you happy. If you find that they are resistant or in denial of holding you back, this is a signal to you that you are in a toxic relationship and you are best to end it.

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Good Childhood https://soforeverloved.com/good-childhood/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=good-childhood https://soforeverloved.com/good-childhood/#respond Fri, 03 Jul 2020 01:20:54 +0000 https://soforeverloved.com/?p=1653 Good ChildhoodGrowing up in the 90's has to have been the greatest decade to grow up in. From what we did in our free time to what television shows, movies and toys we had to keep us occupied. I have to say I had a really good childhood! ]]> Good Childhood

“I’m smart, you’re dumb. I’m big, you’re little. I’m right, you’re wrong! And there’s nothing you can do about it!” If you know what movie this is from, you had a GOOD childhood.

Growing up in the 90’s has to have been the greatest decade to grow up in. From what we did in our free time to what television shows, movies and toys we had to keep us occupied. I have to say I had a really good childhood!

We played outside with our friends. Our free time was actually spent running around and playing with our neighborhood friends outside instead of inside the house looking at a screen.

We had the best television shows and movies. The 1990’s had the best television shows; Rugrats, Boy Meets World, Arthur, The Amanda Show, Caillou, CatDog, Digimon, Doug….I can go on and on! We can’t forget the Toy Story movies, Home Alone and Little Giants.“I’m smart, you’re dumb. I’m big, you’re little. I’m right, you’re wrong! And there’s nothing you can do about it!” If you know what movie this is from, you had a GOOD childhood.

We sat at our dinner table as a family, without phones. Everyone didn’t have cell phones back in the 90’s. Every night we made it a point to sit down as a family to eat a meal and actually talk and listen to each other!

We had the coolest toys. Who can forget the Nintendo 64, Tamagotchi’s, Beanie Babies, Game Boy, Sky Dancers, Hit Clips and Tickle Me Elmo?

We always looked forward to Friday night video rentals. We could spend hours just looking around at the 100’s of movies and video games in Blockbuster store. This is definitely a thing of the past now that we can buy or rent all of our movies and video games online, but we absolutely loved this store!

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Cold Shoulder https://soforeverloved.com/cold-shoulder/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=cold-shoulder https://soforeverloved.com/cold-shoulder/#respond Fri, 03 Jul 2020 00:12:18 +0000 https://soforeverloved.com/?p=1631 Cold ShoulderWe've all been there. Everyone has been given the cold shoulder or silent treatment from someone they are close to at some time or another. It doesn't have to be a romantic relationship, it can be between family members, close friends or co-workers too.]]> Cold Shoulder

“When a girls long text messages filled with emojis turn into short, one word replies you know she’s probably mad at you.”

We’ve all been there. Everyone has been given the cold shoulder or silent treatment from someone they are close to at some time or another. It doesn’t have to be a romantic relationship, it can be between family members, close friends or co-workers too. It is unhealthy for any type of relationship and is seen as a form of emotional abuse. If you are being given the silent treatment, keep the following tips in mind.

How to Respond to the Silent Treatment

Give them the benefit of the doubt. If you tried to contact them and they didn’t respond, it could just be that they are can’t get to the phone to call you. Or, maybe they didn’t receive your text. Sometimes text messages don’t get received due to provider problems. For all you know, they might be out of cell phone range and cannot send or receive calls. If you tried texting them the first time, call them the next time you try to get a hold of them. Just don’t jump to the conclusion that they are giving you the cold shoulder.

Communicate with your friend. Let them know that you have noticed they have not been getting back to you and that you would really like to talk to them to talk about any problems there may be your relationship. Don’t say, “Why haven’t you called me back?” If you are leaving a voicemail, make sure you watch your tone of voice. This can make the difference between them calling back and not.

Look at your past behavior. Try to think back to when the silent treatment began. Maybe you did some things that triggered your friend to start giving the cold shoulder to you. If you recognize that you did something wrong, own up to it and communicate this to your friend.

Does your friend give you the silent treatment often? Giving the silent treatment is a way a person can gain control over a situation. The person giving the silent treatment remains silent until they are given what they want or apologized to. A person who does this is acting passive-aggressively and is emotionally abusing the person he or she is giving the cold shoulder to. Try to avoid any relationship that a person frequently gives the silent treatment to you in.

Monitor your behavior when you are experiencing the silent treatment. Don’t give the silent treatment back. Let your friend know that you are there when they are ready to talk. Remain calm. Accept your responsibility in the problem, if you were at fault in any way.

Apologize for your part in the problem. Don’t apologize if you are not at fault though. If your friend does not respond to you, it’s time to move on.

Talk to your friend or partner about developing better communication skills. Seek out a counselor for communication therapy so you can learn ways to communicate instead of using the silent treatment.

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Relationship PTSD https://soforeverloved.com/relationship-ptsd/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=relationship-ptsd https://soforeverloved.com/relationship-ptsd/#respond Thu, 02 Jul 2020 00:33:52 +0000 https://soforeverloved.com/?p=1628 Relationship PTSDWhen a person comes out of a toxic relationship they can go through symptoms very similar to post traumatic stress disorder, PTSD after a relationship breakup is real.]]> Relationship PTSD

“PTSD after a relationship breakup is real.”

Breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend can be very difficult, especially when the relationship was emotionally or physically abusive. When a person comes out of a toxic relationship they can go through symptoms very similar to post traumatic stress disorder, PTSD. PTSD after a relationship breakup is real.

5 Signs of Relationship PTSD

1. You are afraid to make another commitment. Because you were let down in your past relationship, it can be difficult to learn to trust again. Take your time moving on to another relationship. Seek friends, family or a counselor for support during this time. With the proper support, in time, you will be able to trust and start dating again.

2. You have poor self-esteem. This is often seen after a toxic relationship where there was emotional or physical abuse. Your partner may have belittled you or made you feel as if your opinion did not matter. This is difficult to overcome, but with the proper support of your family, friends and a counselor it can be done.

3. Feeling intense loneliness after ending the relationship. It is very common to feel lonely when you get out of any relationship, but sometimes this loneliness can be overwhelming. This is why a lot of couples get back together after a breakup. Instead of seeking comfort from your ex, try to surround yourself with people that love you like your friends and family. They can help alleviate your loneliness and give you great support after your breakup.

4. Nightmares and flashbacks occurring. This is especially seen if you were in a past relationship that you experienced intense emotional or physical abuse from your partner. You might find yourself waking up in the middle of the night due to nightmares.

5. You find yourself jumping into another unhealthy relationship. When you end a toxic relationship it is important to take time to heal. Ask yourself how you got yourself into the unhealthy relationship and what you can do differently in the future to avoid the same type of relationship. If you don’t give yourself time to recognize the mistakes you made in the past, you are likely to get yourself into another toxic relationship. Take your time

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Commitment https://soforeverloved.com/commitment/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=commitment https://soforeverloved.com/commitment/#respond Wed, 01 Jul 2020 23:40:32 +0000 https://soforeverloved.com/?p=1622 CommitmentNo one wants to waste their time dating someone that isn't in the relationship for the long haul. But how do you know if the guy you are with is serious about you and wants a long term commitment? ]]> Commitment

“Girls, if a guy is not willing to commit you are simply not the one he wants to be with. Move on and do better.”

We all go into relationships wanting them to be successful. No one wants to waste their time dating someone that isn’t in the relationship for the long haul. But how do you know if the guy you are with is serious about you and wants a long term commitment?

5 Tell Tale Signs Your Guy Wants to Commit

1. He doesn’t want to date anyone else. He may even outright tell you that he wants to be exclusive as a couple. If a guy really likes you, he will make it clear to you that he doesn’t want to date anyone else. He does this because he wants to make sure that he does not lose you to another guy.

2. He wants to spend all his extra time with you. He will make changes to his schedule in order to make sure he can hang out with you. When he is with you. When you are together, he listens attentively to what you have to say because he is interested in learning everything that he can about you.

3. He talks about the his future and includes you in it. Maybe he talks about moving in an apartment together. Some guys that are really serious about wanting a future with you may ask you what your dreams are for a husband and family and express his to you. You may even start talking about how many children you would have together or how life would be for you to marry and have a family of your own together.

4. He is someone that you can always count on to be there for you. When you are feeling down he is someone that you can always count on to get you feeling better. He shows you through his actions that he genuinely cares about you. When he tells you that he will do something for you or with you, he keeps his promises. He does not want to ever disappoint you.

5. He wants to meet your family and introduce you to his. Most guys don’t bring every girl that they date home to meet their parents unless he feels it is a serious relationship. If he is asking to meet your family he must really like you! He wants so much to impress your parents and it can be a terrifying experience for him.

If you are in a relationship and he is showing you these tell tale signs, then your guy is probably pretty serious about wanting a commitment with you. If you have been dating this guy for some time and he is not showing you any of these signs, he most likely isn’t interested in making a commitment with you. Girls, if a guy is not willing to commit you are simply not the one he wants to be with. Move on and do better.

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Ghosting People https://soforeverloved.com/ghosting-people/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=ghosting-people https://soforeverloved.com/ghosting-people/#respond Mon, 29 Jun 2020 22:41:27 +0000 https://soforeverloved.com/?p=1619 Ghosting PeopleDon't ignore friends texts and then chat it up on one of your social media accounts. 4 Top Reasons Why People Ghost]]> Ghosting People

“If you need some time away from someone, tell them. Ghosting them just shows your immaturity.”

Everyone needs to take a break from people at some time. It’s a way to get relief from social pressures and to get some clarity on your life. It helps you to feel more energized and happier as well. Something that has become more popular with people these days is “ghosting”, ending a relationship with someone by severing all communication, not even giving an explanation.

Don’t ignore friends texts and then chat it up on one of your social media accounts. This is only going to make them wonder why you are ignoring them. If you need some time away from someone, tell them. Ghosting them just shows your immaturity.

4 Top Reasons Why People Ghost

1. Avoid Confrontation This is a very common reason that many people have given for avoiding communicating with someone. It could be because they are afraid of the conversation that they would have with them to end the relationship. Or they could feel guilty or not wanting to deal with any drama that will unfold. For them, it was just easier to end all communication.

2. Afraid of Causing Pain Many times a person really doesn’t want to cause the other person pain by telling them hurtful things, so instead they just avoid all conversations with them. This really is doesn’t help the other person that is probably wondering what they did wrong to cause you to just act like they don’t even exist.

3. They are Too Busy Many times people have too much on their plate and have a difficult time juggling so many things and people at one time. The person they are ghosting obviously isn’t a priority in their life and instead of letting the person know by communicating with them how busy they are, they just ghost them.

4. They Don’t Feel Safe With the Person Many times people enter into a relationship and things are wonderful at first. But as time goes on, you start to see each others true colors. This person may turn out to be a violent, angry or disturbed person and severing all communication seemed the easiest way to end things. This is one circumstance that ghosting can actually be the right thing to do!

If there comes a time in your life and you want to end a relationship with a friend or a significant other, in most circumstances it is best to tell them. You owe them an explanation of why you would like to end your friendship or relationship. This way you will not leave them hanging, wondering if it was something that they did or said to you. By letting them know, they can better understand and make changes to avoid it from happening again in a future relationship. Think of it this way, you wouldn’t want someone to just ghost you, would you?

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